Alda has been on a decades-long journey to discover new ways to help people communicate and relate to each other more effectively. If I Understood Youis the warm, witty and informative chronicle of how Alda found inspiration in everything from cutting-edge science to classic acting methods. In his wry and wise voice, Alda reflects on moments of miscommunication in his own life, when an absence of understanding resulted in problems both big and small. Drawing on improvisation training, theater and storytelling techniques from a life of acting, and with insights from recent scientific studies, Alda describes ways we can build empathy, nurture our innate mind-reading abilities, and improve the way we relate and talk with others. Offering empathy-boosting games and exercises, If I Understood Youis a funny, thought-provoking guide that can be used by all of us, in every aspect of our lives-with our friends, lovers, and families, with our doctors, in business settings, and beyond.